Can friendships and relationships really be healed after betrayal? Is there a limit to how far a friendship can fall below the point of no return?
It has always baffled me to see how many times women can forgive a man who hurt them, yet cut off a friend from a minut discrepancy.
Now, some things do call for immediate dismissal, such as sleeping with your man, spreading ill will about you, and stealing for example. But what about a misunderstanding? An argument? A difference of opinion?
I’ve been cast away from people from disagreements and difference of opinion who have stayed with a man after continuously being disrespected and cheated on. I’ve even lost a friend for giving friendly advise about a bad situation.
Many would say that those weren’t real friends and others would simply call a spade a spade. Ladies, we have alot of inner work to do when it comes to healing the various relationships in our lives. Our platonic friendships are just as important as our romantic relationships.
The reality is, we should be judging our familial, platonic, and romantic relationships through the same lens and standards. Once we start doing that, we will notice that alot of relationships weren’t really as they seemed.
It was when I reached the point in my life when I wasn’t afraid to be alone that I had no issue with saying goodbye to WHOEVER didn’t reach the standard. I don’t regret it one bit. I don’t have friends to gossip with, a man to argue with, or a family member to talk down on me. I don’t have to worry about who is real or fake because everyone’s loyalty is measured with the same measuring stick. If you don’t make the cut, you don’t make the cut.
The important thing is that when you get ready to make cuts, make sure the standards you are judging them against relate to your HEALED standards of self and not your BROKEN self. There is a difference.