I don’t know about you, but breakups and endings have always been hard for me to manage. Whether it’s the residue of my bruised ego or the feeling of rejection, it doesn’t feel good whatsoever to feel like you have failed at something. Whether people like to publicly admit it or not, it hurts… and if you have feelings and a heart you are going to feel it all… unless, well, you attempt to numb the pain.
That seems to work for a short period of time, but then it comes back again right when you don’t realize it. That hurt stares you in the face one morning , leaving you questioning decisions and about what’s next.
It’s that moment, when you are finally ready to see just why this ending had to happen.
It’s that moment, when you begin the journey of healing for a new beginning.
This new beginning is usually there to guide you to something better, if you allow it to happen. I have always believed that there is a lesson in everything we come across in life. Whether it’s a lesson of progress or a lesson of what not to do, it’s still something valuable to be found in the midst of it all. Most times, it’s the universe protecting us from something we can’t see with our natural eye and guiding us towards something better.
There’s usually a lesson in the midst of the storm that can be used like a puzzle piece to the full picture of your life. Just because something has ended, it doesn’t make you any less of a person or any less worthy of great things. Its just that it had an expiration date.
Would you drink milk, one month after its expiration date? I would really hope not! Cause hunty, you would be one sick individual. That is no different from expired friendships, job situations, and other interpersonal relationships. The longer you refuse to let it go, the longer it takes for you to graduate to the next level.
So, the next time you are faced with a break-up or ending that you don’t want to happen, think about all the things you have learned while in it.
What did you learn about yourself?
What did you learn about other people?
What did you learn about your life purpose?
These are only a few questions you’d want to ask yourself, in order to see the full picture. When you see the full picture, you notice that the ending wasn’t so bad after all! As a testimony, I have leveled up after EVERY HEARTBREAK!
This is something I work with my clients on a weekly basis. Sometimes, it’s hard to see just how far you have come or the sun in the middle of the storm. If you find yourself needing a little extra help or coaching, you can always book a personal session with me, to discuss further.