As I finished wiping the tears on my face, while looking at my therapist through the computer screen, in shame… it was that moment when everything had begun to make sense.
I was expecting him to say “well, what did you do?” or “maybe you should have…” because I had become so used to everyone else telling me how I was wrong for speaking my mind or holding people accountable to my boundaries. I had become so accustomed to it… that I had begun to relax those same boundaries I was trying to enforce.
And I needed the reminder….
After I finished sobbing away, with snot running down and all, he looked at me and said…. “it sounds like you are trying to figure out how to create healthy boundaries.”
In that moment, all I could do was look at him like… “wow, you are so right!” I had been trying to enforce all of these boundaries, that they were smoke and mirrors. They weren’t getting to the heart of the problem and what I needed. I needed to be clear, concise, and I MUST stick to them.
It was that moment when I remembered… we can’t control a person’s actions; but we can control the access they have to you.
So long story short…. If the person or situation is unable to respect it; then you need to walk away and never look back. #liveoutloud
#ProtectYourPeace #ProtectYourLegacy