I have a confession...
After multiple sexual assaults, emotional abuse, and physical neglect, I was seriously depressed by the time I hit high school….
I have a confession…
If it wasn’t for therapy, I wouldn’t be alive today. Between the years of 2005-2009 I had active thoughts of suicide, and attempted in 2005 by the way of medication overdose.
I woke up crying; It failed...
To this day, I dread taking medication and try more holistic approaches before popping a pill. I hadn’t realized how much I had been affected by the various forms of trauma I’d been exposed to, all by the age of 13. After multiple sexual assaults, emotional abuse, and physical neglect, I was seriously depressed by the time I hit high school.
I hid it well...
Behind the smiles, laughs, and humor that seemed to keep people laughing; I hated my life. Do you know what it feels like to spend most of your life feeling lonely? Although I moved with my dad, escaping the trauma and hurt of years before, I was more depressed than before.
I went to a school where I had no relatives… honestly, I am the cousin in the family that had no one in her age range near. I tried to cling to my older cousins and “play cousins” but it always felt like they didn’t want me around. If it wasn’t for my best friend Monica, I honestly don’t know how I would’ve transitioned. We had known each other for years, because her family stayed around the corner from my grandma. Whenever I went to visit my dad in the summers and holidays we would play, ride our bikes, etc.
It was very hard. I felt rejected. I felt lonely. I felt unworthy.
I’m crying as I write this, because I’ve only shared my story in snippets with different people… The only person with the full story, is my therapist back in Michigan. Vulnerability is hard. It is still something I battle with completely, even though I’ve become much better at it. It can be difficult for many people to share their story because of fear of being labeled or rejected. My personal fear, was/is that some people will now forever “label me” and many assumptions will follow. I no longer care.
Turning 30 has changed my entire perspective of life.
The hardest part about transitioning from the place of “victim” to “survivor” is acknowledging your personal truth and allowing it to grow you. I am no longer suicidal, but I believe therapy is something important to keep as a preventative of breaking down. If you feel you need someone; I am here to listen… but pleeeeease….
Don’t be afraid to go to therapy. It can save a life.
It’s not overnight
Oftentimes, we look at our flaws and begin to feel defeated. We see everything that is wrong with us, and everything we’d like to change in order to be the person we are meant to be. We become overwhelmed and anxious of the known and unknown forces we are unable to control or change.
Growth.
Oftentimes, we look at our flaws and begin to feel defeated. We see everything that is wrong with us, and everything we’d like to change in order to be the person we are meant to be. We become overwhelmed and anxious of the known and unknown forces we are unable to control or change.
We often forget something!
This is NOT A RACE. Everything is a process and a journey. We didn’t develop these flaws overnight. They are a compilation of events, trauma, thoughts, and observation. Just as a baby grows slowly everyday in order to one day become an adult, that’s how we should treat our personal growth.
Today, I challenge you to find peace in where you are and make a conscious decision to change a little at a time.
Peace & Love to you, as you journey. 🦋
