How our upbringing did a disservice to our confidence

This is a topic that many may not be ready to hear yet. The reason for this is primarily because many of us have been conditioned to hide ourselves, or make ourselves feel smaller, as a way to make others feel better. So when things are put in the forefront, forcing us to evaluate not only ourselves but those we love, we get a bit uncomfortable.

But I don’t care; that’s my life purpose…. to make others uncomfortable and keep them on their toes.

For some, this fight for gaining confidence started in the home with their parents.

For others, it may have been a teacher or another superior figure like a pastor older family member.

Our sense of confidence is developed during adolescence, during the time of your life when you are the most impressionable. Some of you may still be a bit confused by where I’m going with this.

Walk with me down the hallway real quick.

As a child, many of my peers and I were raised to believe that our voices didn’t matter. We weren’t allowed to ask questions, didn’t receive apologies when wronged by an adult, and were scolded for wanting to express our creative differences if it looked to threaten the picture intended to be painted by the authority figure of the space.

In my heart, I don’t believe the adults behave in this way to intentionally harm the personal development of children. I think it is something that is passed down through generations, forcing us to behave in the same manner in which we were raised; causing generational trauma. We not only lowered ourselves in the home or classroom, but we started to do it at work, with our friends, romantic relationships, and perceived superiors.

We are responsible for what we know now…

The people of our generation are the ones meant to break the toxic patterns we were exposed to. It is time for us to raise a new generation who is confident in who they are.

A generation that is not afraid to ask questions for clarity and understanding.

A generation that is not afraid to express themselves creatively without receiving immediate negative feedback from their internal trauma-judge.

A generation that understands the importance of not lowering yourself as a way to feed someone else’s ego.

Are you willing to stop the curse with me?