The Art of Relationships
Unfortunately, Oftentimes it becomes easy to lose ourselves in those types of relationships. They feel good on the outside, but it begins to eat at you because you are losing what made you so dope for the relationship.
If you’re reading this, I’m assuming you are of age and you have had your fair share of relationships. From friendships, romantic relationships, co-workerships, and all the other types of ships we find ourselves entangled in from time to time.
Sometimes they are stressing us out…
Sometimes they are the most amazing situations in life…
Other times, they hurt like hell!
Here I am… over 30 years old and I finally feel like I have found the recipe to really understanding relationships and how to make them work best.
If you’re anything like me, then you may be the type to love someone hard. When you care about a person, you want nothing but the best for them. You want them to know that you care about them. You want to bring them joy.
Unfortunately, Oftentimes it becomes easy to lose ourselves in those types of relationships. They feel good on the outside, but it begins to eat at you because you are losing what made you so dope for the relationship.
This leads me to the major key I have stumbled upon. The art of relationships is to simply be whole within yourself. Have your priorities set and in order and then you allow the other person a space in your life. When you begin to rearrange your life for the sake of another person you are placing yourself at risk of creating resentment for the other person. Especially, if it isn’t returned back to you.
The best way to make our relationships last with family and romantic partners is to be so in tune with yourself and your passion that there is no room to get lost in the feeling of co-dependency.
Grieving a heartbreak
Let me be the first to tell you, I’ve had my fair share of difficult experiences that have turned into learning opportunities. They didn’t feel like a learning opportunity, and I for sure was not ready to hear how beneficial that hurt was to me!
I grew up hearing the phrase “life is all about learning from the difficult experiences.”
Let me be the first to tell you, I’ve had my fair share of difficult experiences that have turned into learning opportunities. They didn’t feel like a learning opportunity, and I for sure was not ready to hear how beneficial that hurt was to me… while I was going through it.
When you’re going through a heartbreak, it feels like your heart and soul is withering. You’re stuck trying to figure out if it was something that you did, or something you should’ve done in effort to keep it going. It’s like a whirlwind of emotions are swarming through your body demanding your attention for however long you allow them too.
Overcoming heartbreak is similar to grieving the loss of a loved one. Breaking up is another form of mourning and it deserves its due process all the same. We can’t put a time limit on it. We can’t rush the process. Sometimes, we feel better a month later…. for some; it can take years.
If you’re going through any type of heartbreak… give yourself grace. It’s my hope that one day, you too, will be able to say: I SURVIVED. In the meantime, allow yourself to feel what you are feeling and may you push through to the other side.
Peace & Love