Time depends on your priorities
…to only find myself completing the circle and changing my personal priorities around. What was once my first priority had become my third. As a result, my grades fell…..
One day I was reflecting on my summer semester for school. For the first time ever, I got my first B in one of my grad school courses (between 3 different programs). The old me would’ve been drastically hurt, but for some reason I took it pretty well.
I have spent so many years of my life, 10 years of the last 14 to be exact, with school as my number one priority. While I was away to school, I missed major milestones of loved ones. I missed birthdays, family get-togethers, and celebrations. I watched my nieces and nephews grow up through facebook and facetime and my grandparents aged at what seemed to be a much faster pace.
All for the sake of chasing my education and dreams.
To only find myself completing the circle and changing my personal priorities around. What was once my first priority had become my third. As a result, my grades fell…..
But
I grew closer to loved ones and that meant much more to me. I took the time to heal parts of myself that had been ignored due to the accumulation of years of burying them deep inside. Because of this, that B felt like an A in my book.
I said all of that to say… there may be some changes you may need to make in your life in order to keep growing and learning. Are you prioritizing some things that shouldn’t be as high as they are, at the expense of something more important?
Our goals are important… but what’s most important is that we are aligned at all times with our purpose.
Peace & Love
The Art of Relationships
Unfortunately, Oftentimes it becomes easy to lose ourselves in those types of relationships. They feel good on the outside, but it begins to eat at you because you are losing what made you so dope for the relationship.
If you’re reading this, I’m assuming you are of age and you have had your fair share of relationships. From friendships, romantic relationships, co-workerships, and all the other types of ships we find ourselves entangled in from time to time.
Sometimes they are stressing us out…
Sometimes they are the most amazing situations in life…
Other times, they hurt like hell!
Here I am… over 30 years old and I finally feel like I have found the recipe to really understanding relationships and how to make them work best.
If you’re anything like me, then you may be the type to love someone hard. When you care about a person, you want nothing but the best for them. You want them to know that you care about them. You want to bring them joy.
Unfortunately, Oftentimes it becomes easy to lose ourselves in those types of relationships. They feel good on the outside, but it begins to eat at you because you are losing what made you so dope for the relationship.
This leads me to the major key I have stumbled upon. The art of relationships is to simply be whole within yourself. Have your priorities set and in order and then you allow the other person a space in your life. When you begin to rearrange your life for the sake of another person you are placing yourself at risk of creating resentment for the other person. Especially, if it isn’t returned back to you.
The best way to make our relationships last with family and romantic partners is to be so in tune with yourself and your passion that there is no room to get lost in the feeling of co-dependency.