Introducing: Moe Nicole... the DOCTORAL CANDIDATE! Here's my testimony!
2020 was a TOUGH YEAR for me… if you haven’t heard me say it many times before (haha!). The pandemic not only hit my business hard, it also hit me hard as a student. Going from in-person learning to online was a very difficult transition for me to manage on top of other life responsibilities. I would spend hours each day trying to grasp
As of April 21, 2021 I have officially passed ALL of my Written and Oral comprehensive exams; making me officially a Doctoral Candidate!
2020 was a TOUGH YEAR for me… if you haven’t heard me say it many times before (haha!). The pandemic not only hit my business hard, it also hit me hard as a student. Going from in-person learning to online was a very difficult transition for me to manage on top of other life responsibilities. I would spend hours each day trying to grasp concepts that felt foreign and I hated it. Having people telling me everything they felt I was doing wrong, didn’t help either.
No one seemed to understand what I was going through, other than my therapist, so I rolled with the punches. Major shoutout to my therapist, I can’t thank you enough!
I was actually supposed to take my comps Fall 2020, but had to push them back due to unforeseen circumstances. I refused to give up though. I was determined to complete what I had started, even if I didn’t have a desire to work in education anymore.
The research I plan to complete (topic: trauma-informed care) will be something I can use on my entrepreneurial journey and I’m happy to had finally found a space to alchemize my passion from my educational journey.
I will not be rushing this process and plan on taking a break before going back to school to complete the dissertation process ( I have a good reason for this! STAY TUNED! :-D).
I just wanted to take the moment and celebrate myself for making it this far, alone.
Here’s to the journey!
How to believe in yourself after losing friends and family
Most of them don’t really like what it is you’re promoting. They are simply supporting just because it is you. Little do you know, this actually hurts you more than it helps you.
When we are pursuing various goals in our life, support is the biggest thing we tend to seek out on the journey. Most times, our first supporters are usually friends and family because of the blind loyalty in the relationship.
Guess what?
Most of them don’t really like what it is you’re promoting. They are simply supporting just because it is you. Little do you know, this actually hurts you more than it helps you.
I had to learn the hard way
As I continued to evolve and show the real me, the true intentions and feelings of others became more apparent. They were supporting me because of who they wanted me to be and not because of WHO I WAS.
That made it easy to say bye!
The year 2020 was the ultimate year for me in walking in who I was. I went through a tragic breakup with a soulmate, the pandemic crashed my business, and friends and family began showing their true colors when I was in a low space.
Instead of encouraging me, they used that time to beat me down more… to tell me all the things they had been holding in for so long. As much as it hurt at first, I was already in therapy, so I was prepared.
They had to go!
Believing in yourself after losing people who you thought were in your corner can be quite difficult…. BUT THERE IS A RAINBOW at the end of the tunnel. The way to turn it into a rainbow is simple…
Let me tell you a secret…
It’s important for us to become an Alchemist and transform the pain into purpose. Start looking at everything that happens in your life as a LESSON and OPPORTUNITY to turn it into gold. Look inside yourself and understand that most times the problem is not you, but with their perception of reality. In the book The Four Agreements, one of the agreements is to not take things personal and to realize most people project their feelings onto you.
Everyone is going through their own journey and most ARE NOT living in their personal truths. Instead of working on their areas of concern, they look for others to dispel their energy onto.
We have to Live out Loud!
In my book Live out Loud, I go in-depth on how to follow your purpose, even if it gets hard. This book will change your mind and life FOREVER as you learn how to L.I.V.E.
What is the hardest part of letting go, for you?
Let me know in the comments!
