Sometimes, losing is a blessing... crazy right?
It wasn’t until later in life when I realized that all of those rejections were meant to give me tough skin for the work I was meant to do.
Raise your hand if you’ve ever thought something was wrong with you because you kept losing? Now, if you’re anything like me and in my village, I’m sure your hand shot up just like mine. There have been times when I found myself sitting in the middle of the floor, in the dark, crying my eyes out because nothing seemed to work in my life.
From relationships to friendships, it felt like something was wrong with me because I seemed to always keep losing. I kept getting played by men. My businesses felt like they were continuously failing. The people around me all felt undependable. It just felt like I was missing out on so much.
It wasn’t until later in life when I realized that all of those rejections were meant to give me tough skin for the work I was meant to do. Me not getting what I thought I wanted was a blessing because it taught me lessons, I’d eventually need. It was like I took the long way home as I experienced different types of people along the journey.
You ever take a moment and look back at that person you had a crush on in High School? Nine times out of ten they look NOTHING like what they did in High School when you planned your futures out together. That’s a reminder to us that what we see is not always what we get or even really need… only time can show most things.
Let this serve as a reminder that whatever you have recently “lost” or been given the short end of the stick with wasn’t really the best available for you. Keep pushing and sharing your story, there’s someone who needs to hear it.
The Real Reason Why We Fear Starting Something New
Thankfully, we are living in a time where many people are coming out of their shells and denying the ideals they were taught when they were younger. They are no longer subscribing to…
Whew chile!!
So guess what? (who really said “what girllll?”) lol
So, I just made it public that I’m releasing my first Romance Erotica Novel and I definitely received mixed responses. I had some people unfollow/unfriend/unsubscribe… and then I had others congratulate me and share how much they couldn’t wait to read it. I had people telling me how brave I was to take such a leap and all I could think about was how nervous I was deep inside.
You know, I was raised in a very strict Christian focused home. We didn’t talk about sex, female sexuality, or even relationships. Honestly, I was so ill-prepared that I had to learn through experience, and boy was that a rollercoaster hunty! The way I was raised had me in a box that made me afraid to try new things or explore topics that weren’t often talked about. It honestly took me breaking away from my family to finally be free. I know not everyone has this experience, but this was mine.
The fear we oftentimes have when it comes to doing something different, outside of the box, stems from our personal confidence and how we were raised. Unfortunately, all of us weren’t raised to question life, to research, to test out different options. Many of us were told what to do and what not to do, and it oftentimes was painted in black and white. This way of living most times stifles more than it helps.
Thankfully, we are living in a time where many people are coming out of their shells and denying the ideals they were taught when they were younger. They are no longer subscribing to what people have told them about themselves and have embarked on a journey of self-discovery and personal freedom. Everyday is a journey and everyday you have to wake up with the idea that you will try something new and break down another barrier that has been built in your subconscious.
You got this, I promise you do! It starts with you saying to yourself: “I reject the lies that I have been taught and embrace the journey to discovering a new truth and way of life.”
Then, make that jump… most times than not, you’ll be grateful that you took the leap :-)
Oh yea, if you’re into romance erotica novels, check out my new book here!
